The Social Stalker

Who are you under the table?

 

Sometimes there are people who are too interested in being a part of someone elses life.  They don't hurt anyone physically; but can injure them in other ways.  They think that overt ingratiating behaviour will some how make them the stalked person's best friend or become someone they admire.  They seem to want to hang out with their 'hero'.  It works for a time but then the object of their attention can become annoyed and irritated.  

I think that probably the best way of handling something like this is to not let it creep you out.  If you are the recipient, it is important to just be yourself and use commonsense.  It would probably be a good thing to just ask the person to leave you alone.  Make it abundantly clear that they are embarrassing to the object of their admiration.  That, although it is flattering, you would appreciate it if they did not continually ask for your attention and company.  Make it clear that you, wish to make your own mind up as to who you want to be in company with on week days and your weekends in particular. 

Do a little research and find a place for the person to go in their spare time to make new friends.  People who would enjoy their attention.  Whether you are a Christian or not, society does not behoove  you to be a person that is there to take care of everyone on the planet.  If you can't take on a project there is probably a very good reason for that.  God gives us talents.  Each of us has their own God given things to pursue.  It is between the Lord and myself, for instance, just what my purpose or mission in life is and each of us must come to it in thoughtful prayer.  I must be able to set boundaries.  But I must be careful the other person does not feel like an 'untouchable'.

Sometimes life is like a social mine field folks....so be careful out there!

The Wee Few Thoughts of Dylan the Dog

It really amazes a little doggie like me the things that Ruth comes up with to write about.  Her head must be a very treacherous place to go.  She has  been around a great many different types of other people.  She wants to see a happy world out their for everyone including doggies.  I guess a being can only do the best they can.

          

Note:  The kitty on glass photo is from Cats on Glass and Dylan of course, was taken by Alec Bruyns.

Trolls or Consequences

 It saddens me a great deal the way that people today don't seem to care what happens in their society. I wonder where the teachings of my parents and grandparents have gone. Even when someone was not respected as someone that people revered; others showed common decency towards them. There is a video being shown on 'you tube' these days and you might find it interesting so go here I do not understand the way people think at all. I hope those young people get prosecuted to the full extent of the law. My generation were pretty off the wall but we still respected our elders. 'The world is big, and cat bullies might be cute, but people bullies are the ugliest monsters I can imagine.' Posted by Angelica Sidious

 What really gets me about this situation is that she is probably monitoring these vindictive little trolls for nothing.

There is another problem people have with their lack of manners these days as well.. The big thing is that everyone should keep a real date book so you know what is on during that month. First, to keep yourself abreast of business, social, and medical commitments. Second, to make sure you don't commit to more than you can handle. Third, it also helps to keep probabilities penciled in so that you can tell people in good time, that; if such and such happens you won't be able to attend whatever event. It makes life go along at a nicer pace. It also helps keep your relationships with people on a positive upswing.

 The Wee Few Thoughts of Dylan the Dog 

 Ruth is talking about a very important problem today. I watched a bit of the video with her. And people call us 'animals'! It is horrific what these human children did. In regard to the other thing - if I had a real social life I would keep a date book. But I don't write and I can't see the sense in having a book full of paw prints. :) 

 The bullying cat picture comes from Angelica's site 'Millions of Cats'. The picture of Dylan was taken by Alec Bruyns. 

God's Living Room

There is a darling little park near my home where my dog, Dylan and I go to walk at least once a day.  However there is a problem these days with Skopit Park.   A number of people with both big and little dogs and pigs are not bringing their own biodegradable bags with them so they can scoop their animals poop.  Furthermore people with coffee cups, soda bottles water bottles, and various and sundry disposable food containers, are just dropping them on the ground.  The parks people that cut the grass and empty those round boxes spend their time cleaning up after the debris.  Wouldn't it be easier on our tax dollars if we would just take a minute to put our own garbage in the trash bin?

These thoughtless actions are not appreciated by a lot of people who use the park for their children, their animals and themselves.  To me it is like littering on a small portion of God's living room!  We need to be better housekeepers of this world and it starts in each of our own neighbourhoods. 

It is important to keep Mother Earth pristine one step at a time. Yes; this includes baby steps.  One might think, "Well one little cigarette butt or piece of paper or 'Tim's' cup won't make a difference; but people it does!  Let us all be Ladies and Gentleman and keep our streets, our homes and our parks clean and tidy!  

                            
 The Wee Few Thoughts of Dylan the Dog

Ruth and I went to the park this morning and dirty things were littered all over the ground!  My nose was not giving me the lovely green smells I have come to expect when I am there.  Three nights ago I put my paw into some Setter's yucky poop because their owner didn't scoop their doggies' stuff.  If I had opposable thumbs instead of paws, I would have picked up the litter and gotten my 'Mommy' to put it in one of two containers for stinky things.  But I don't!  Ruth and I were both very disappointed in the other humans about us that misuse our little park.

All the pictures are stock photos except the one of Dylan the Dog which my friend Alec Bruyns took for me and the map which I got from the Town of Richmond Hill site.

Online Dating

 

This is one phenomena that the world could probably do without or at the very least change, in a great many respects.  I think that it is important to know the pitfalls that come with online dating.  There are the obvious pitfalls; such as the man or woman can lie about their age or send another persons picture, they can create a whole false identity online, and stranger still; this can be happening on both sides.

Even if you are the one that is being perfectly honest that 'military person' or 'comfortable bachelor' could be a twelve year old, a pretend soldier,  or worse still a guy or gal that is living on welfare checks or is married with children.  If your new found love asks for money then drop him like a hot poker especially if he lives or works in Africa or China. Believe me you are not going to get any monies paid back.  There are a lot of scams afoot on the net and you don't want to be conned believe me. You can find an article on the pros and cons of online dating here.  So there are obvious flaws in the system. 

Even if you get past all that and they are a good, hardworking, attractive person and you decide to meet each other at a neutral cafe....what then?  You meet and you just don't click or you sense something not quite right you couldn't recognize virtually.  What do you do then?  Do you go on and screen another?  Or do you hope that this one will work?  It seems to be a rather large gamble.

 There are many advantages to all the technological progress we have had in the last thirty years and I enjoy it all.  But when I really think about it, in the end online dating is precarious at best and dangerous at worse.  The girl or guy who is showering you with beautiful romantic phrases more than likely got them off of a sight like this  or this one


The old fashioned dating ideals just don't work anymore because everyone thinks they are too sophisticated for them.  But if we just utilize that whole 'June, spoon, moon thing' of days gone by; well our marriages might last till the 'death do us part' mark.  Perhaps we should start realizing  that a relationship is not an 'instant' thing but takes work and desire on both sides.  

It is most important to really understand just how vulnerable both parties are in the scheme of things and to tread lightly with each other.   Maybe, you could meet someone online and then proceed to date in a more traditional manner.  It would probably work out better if it was months of dating rather than weeks.  Here is a great article to read.    I would like to say that it is the norm for people to find their dream partner online but that would not be true.  More often than not people who date online 'settle' on someone rather than being alone for the rest of their lives.  I think that it all comes down to wanting to invest the time and stress it entails to find that special someone that will help make life more pleasant.  It would  truly be lovely to see more scenarios of young couples ending up as older married folks.

Here in Canada the best place overall to find a date is here, the second best is here,
this is the place you can find more mature company, and to find a Christian partner go to this site.  I believe for anyone living in the states you have the same alternatives although the addresses may be altered. 

Well, other than to say good luck and good dating that is all for today.







The Wee Few Thoughts Of Dylan the Dog 

Ruth took me out this afternoon.  Mom's friend, Ruth and her husband Alec, brought two big heavy things that looked like sidewalk pieces and put them in one of the places where all the green and smelly stuff grows.  I think people are very strange.   I wonder if the 'sidewalk' will grow?  

All the pictures and cartoons are stock photos except the one of Dylan the Dog which I took myself.

Ruminating Over Some Ideas

I would like to use this posting to ruminate over some ideas I had while in the garden at the back of my house after church this morning.  My girl friend Ruth owns the house and tends her lovely garden.  I watched Ruth digging, planting and watering while I sat in the garden.  I thought how peaceful she looked and in balance with nature she seemed; while tending her garden.   Then my thoughts went to the sermon I heard this morning. It was the first time in my life I understood the story of Ananias and Sapphira.   I now understand the meaning of  'Imitation Spirituality' (Acts 4:36&37 and Acts 5:1 to 4}.  There is a comprehensive explanation of the historical and biblical ideas in these verses here . 

When Ruth sat down for a rest in between tasks she gave me a little music box that she found at one of the stores here in town.  She said that when she saw it she thought 'now that is something Ruth (myself) would like.  Alec, Ruth's husband, kindly installed a right handed railing by the steps to my room downstairs. He also drilled holes and installed plugs so I could hang some more pictures.  

Now neither of these people worship the way I do; but they have a great part in helping me form the thoughts and ideas I have by being with them, conversing with me, and just being Ruth and Alec.  So I think you may be asking what has that got to do with the sermon she mentioned?  Well I can tell you this: every time they give of themselves, their thoughts, or their hearts, I feel as though they have given me a taste of positive spirituality. 

There are a lot of folk in my church community that do the same for me in other ways.  They make me see things from a different slant and it helps me see my faith in a positive perspective.  And now as a result of this sermon this morning I am thinking about just being saved myself as opposed to being saved and telling others the good news.  Thanks to pastors Beth and Dave, I often find myself waking up in the middle of the night going over some provocative idea or thought they may have put in my head.

Back in the garden I think of what a miracle all the flowers and plants are and how wonderful our creator must be to have 'invented' all the lovely things; in our garden let alone the world.  When people tell me that there are no miracles these days, I feel like showing them the garden here in my back yard. 


The Wee Few Thoughts of Dylan the Dog  

Ruth took me to the back garden today.  She lost hold of the my leash.  I sat for awhile thinking I might go for a run.  I looked up at Mom and noticed that she had picked up the leash.  She said 'Oh I am so glad you didn't run on the beds Dylan!'  I guess I am smarter than I thought.

    

The photos of the Columbine, the Lily- of-the-Valley, and the  butterflies were taken by my friend Alec Bruyns.  The photo of Dylan was taken by myself.  The one of the kitty is a stock photo.

Mother's Day on the 13th of May.

Mother's Day is coming up a week from next Sunday.  My own Mom passed away five years ago.  A memorial to my Mother is on my website here .  I designed the whole page myself as a tribute to her.

It doesn't seem to be a very big deal for those under 50 these days.  Each century has its own cuts on sentimentality.   In the past few years, they have claimed it is the recession but lack of money doesn't stop a person from using their talents to create a homemade card.

 I am thinking I just may treat myself in and around that day just so I don't get all nostalgic.  I find that if I am able to do that sort of thing it kind of makes things a little better.  I know my Mother would encourage it and probably want me to pick her up something too.   Maybe I will get some bangles for myself.  

When I think of Mother's Day, I remember giving my mother a little music box with a 18th century youth going around and around to 'Windmills of My Mind' I think.  I know that my Mother kept it in her china cabinet and it seems to have disappeared completely.   My Mother put our names on the things she wanted to leave each of us .  I know there is no one else in the family that has the same christian name as I do.  It is all too strange as is life in general.  At any rate; when I gave it to her she seemed truly delighted with it.