May 31, 2012

Online Dating


This is one phenomena that the world could probably do without or at the very least change, in a great many respects.  I think that it is important to know the pitfalls that come with online dating.  There are the obvious pitfalls; such as the man or woman can lie about their age or send another persons picture, they can create a whole false identity online, and stranger still; this can be happening on both sides.

Even if you are the one that is being perfectly honest that 'military person' or 'comfortable bachelor' could be a twelve year old, a pretend soldier,  or worse still a guy or gal that is living on welfare checks or is married with children.  If your new found love asks for money then drop him like a hot poker especially if he lives or works in Africa or China. Believe me you are not going to get any monies paid back.  There are a lot of scams afoot on the net and you don't want to be conned believe me. You can find an article on the pros and cons of online dating here.  So there are obvious flaws in the system. 

Even if you get past all that and they are a good, hardworking, attractive person and you decide to meet each other at a neutral cafe....what then?  You meet and you just don't click or you sense something not quite right you couldn't recognize virtually.  What do you do then?  Do you go on and screen another?  Or do you hope that this one will work?  It seems to be a rather large gamble.

 There are many advantages to all the technological progress we have had in the last thirty years and I enjoy it all.  But when I really think about it, in the end online dating is precarious at best and dangerous at worse.  The girl or guy who is showering you with beautiful romantic phrases more than likely got them off of a sight like this  or this one

The old fashioned dating ideals just don't work anymore because everyone thinks they are too sophisticated for them.  But if we just utilize that whole 'June, spoon, moon thing' of days gone by; well our marriages might last till the 'death do us part' mark.  Perhaps we should start realizing  that a relationship is not an 'instant' thing but takes work and desire on both sides.  

It is most important to really understand just how vulnerable both parties are in the scheme of things and to tread lightly with each other.   Maybe, you could meet someone online and then proceed to date in a more traditional manner.  It would probably work out better if it was months of dating rather than weeks.  Here is a great article to read.    I would like to say that it is the norm for people to find their dream partner online but that would not be true.  More often than not people who date online 'settle' on someone rather than being alone for the rest of their lives.  I think that it all comes down to wanting to invest the time and stress it entails to find that special someone that will help make life more pleasant.  It would  truly be lovely to see more scenarios of young couples ending up as older married folks.

Here in Canada the best place overall to find a date is here, the second best is here,
this is the place you can find more mature company, and to find a Christian partner go to this site.  I believe for anyone living in the states you have the same alternatives although the addresses may be altered. 

Well, other than to say good luck and good dating that is all for today.

The Wee Few Thoughts Of Dylan the Dog 

Ruth took me out this afternoon.  Mom's friend, Ruth and her husband Alec, brought two big heavy things that looked like sidewalk pieces and put them in one of the places where all the green and smelly stuff grows.  I think people are very strange.   I wonder if the 'sidewalk' will grow?  

All the pictures and cartoons are stock photos except the one of Dylan the Dog which I took myself.